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MadHatter · 07-18-2008, 12:01 AM

I have been dating "Keith" for over 2 years. When we first started dating he did some things I was willing to overlook. I cared for him and thought I would be able to get over what happened because it wasn't very bad. He had gotten one of his x's to send nude pictures of herself to his phone. This happened another time with a second x. About 6 months ago I also discovered that when we had first began dating he asked another x if she would sleep with him one last time, even though he also tagged onto the end "not that I don't have a good thing going with my gf". He denied it, but it was a very hesitant denial. I also know the girl and trust that she wouldn't lie about that sort of thing.
Around the time we were dating for a year he had been talking a lot about getting engaged, and even had me look at rings. I then found out that he met a girl online though one of his gaming websites and was planning on meeting her for movies. While he said they would have to get to know one another and take it from there, he also said he was planning on breaking up with me. She made it clear in her emails they would not be "friends" for very long. I did break up with him after finding out that but the next day he apologized and we got back together.
I have become a very cliche stupid girl. The ones who date losers and never break up with them for someone better, because they love them. I never thought anything was too bad, because nothing had actually ever happened between he and any of those girls.
Last night he was texting a new girl he had met at his friends party, she's the sister of one of their friends. She asked what his sign was, and said she'd like to get to know him better and that she was attracted to him. I got quite upset when I saw that. And after everything that has happened before I feel as though he's just planning on finding another girl and moving on.
I asked him about it. He said they're just friends, why should I freak out? So I explained to him after everything that's happened before what am I supposed to think? That's just like the things that the girl he planned to meet said, followed by her saying she wanted to rape him. His only idea for a solution is to not talk to anyone, so I don't freak out.

Sorry, I know this got longer than I expected it to.
How can I get over the past and trust him now? I don't want to stop him from talking to other girls. But why can't they just talk as friends instead of "im so attracted to you" "even though youre not single right now we should go to th movies" etc.? How can I get over everything and learn to trust him again? Is it even worth the time? Sometimes I think I should just forget about it.

07-18-2008, 12:01 AM	#1 (permalink)
MadHatter Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 1	Justified Jealousy I have been dating "Keith" for over 2 years. When we first started dating he did some things I was willing to overlook. I cared for him and thought I would be able to get over what happened because it wasn't very bad. He had gotten one of his x's to send nude pictures of herself to his phone. This happened another time with a second x. About 6 months ago I also discovered that when we had first began dating he asked another x if she would sleep with him one last time, even though he also tagged onto the end "not that I don't have a good thing going with my gf". He denied it, but it was a very hesitant denial. I also know the girl and trust that she wouldn't lie about that sort of thing. Around the time we were dating for a year he had been talking a lot about getting engaged, and even had me look at rings. I then found out that he met a girl online though one of his gaming websites and was planning on meeting her for movies. While he said they would have to get to know one another and take it from there, he also said he was planning on breaking up with me. She made it clear in her emails they would not be "friends" for very long. I did break up with him after finding out that but the next day he apologized and we got back together. I have become a very cliche stupid girl. The ones who date losers and never break up with them for someone better, because they love them. I never thought anything was too bad, because nothing had actually ever happened between he and any of those girls. Last night he was texting a new girl he had met at his friends party, she's the sister of one of their friends. She asked what his sign was, and said she'd like to get to know him better and that she was attracted to him. I got quite upset when I saw that. And after everything that has happened before I feel as though he's just planning on finding another girl and moving on. I asked him about it. He said they're just friends, why should I freak out? So I explained to him after everything that's happened before what am I supposed to think? That's just like the things that the girl he planned to meet said, followed by her saying she wanted to rape him. His only idea for a solution is to not talk to anyone, so I don't freak out. Sorry, I know this got longer than I expected it to. How can I get over the past and trust him now? I don't want to stop him from talking to other girls. But why can't they just talk as friends instead of "im so attracted to you" "even though youre not single right now we should go to th movies" etc.? How can I get over everything and learn to trust him again? Is it even worth the time? Sometimes I think I should just forget about it.