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Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo  I think he's just more sensitive to all signs of neglect now. |
Yes, once that thought gets into your head that something is amiss, you start to look for things to back it up. At least that's the way it goes for me.
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Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo He's observing how much I write and complained that my emails get too short. (  ) He also suddenly expects me to call, without having told me so. I didn't realize that at the beginning, so I did as always and just waited for his call... only to get a hurt text message that I didn't call. |
This is related to what I said above. He's judging everything and trying to figure it out. He's trying to figure out the patterns and what has changed and what that means. He needs reassurance, but since he's already got all of this on his mind, he probably won't even really hear or feel reassured by what you tell him -- that it's nothing different, how things weren't so regimented before, etc. IF he's like me.
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Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo I don't know how to reassure him, I have a feeling that whatever I do, it's wrong, or not enough  |
Yeah, this is the really crappy part. And worst, he probably doesn't know either. I am sorry to be such a downer, I am just realizing what a nasty thing jealousy really is. I can tell you that were I in his place, it probably would be so hard for me that I would have run already. If I think of my bf being long distance and having a girl stay at his home, who he is affectionate with, I'd not be able to deal really. It's sad and crazy, but true. I can't even deal with him going outside to make a phone call because I feel like he's trying to hide something from me. How am I going to inform, advise and empower women if I can't even beat this?