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Originally Posted by coLLege kid07  Alright, so I have a question for you romantics out there. What kind of mindset do you have in terms of attracting a date, or in my case a girlfriend?
For me right now I have a mindset where I want a girl to accept me for who I truly am. I want her to genuinely like me and want her to want to spend time with me (or some interest in me).
Well now I think my beliefs are all fine and dandy, but I feel this mindset might have me waiting around and looking for the perfect' girl. We of course know that this isn't true. Also I feel that it may be unrealistic to wait around. What do you think? What are you beliefs in this area? And if you currently have a girlfriend/boyfriend how'd you do it lol? |
I think everyone really wants to find someone who accepts them for who they are and is interested in them. Those really aren't even that specific of requirements (like saying a 5'2", raw vegan, likes electronic music, exercises 5x a week, has blond hair, etc.), so I'm sure that girl is out there for you! Put your intentions out there and just don't settle for what isn't right for you if you are trying to get into a long term relationship. Believe me, I have done that (settled) a lot of times and it has not gotten me to the best place. Shoot, I am lonely so I am still tempted to do that sometimes. I think I even posted about it not too long ago
But I know that I am worth waiting for the perfect person to come (which is a whole lot more specific than your perfect person!).
If you are not really looking for a long term relationship, then meet different people, make connections, experiment with how your relationship goes, and have fun! Aren't you like only 18? You are still young! Just don't stress about it too much. Work on a great relationship with yourself while you are waiting for your perfect person to come along! (heh, corny and common advice huh? sorry!)