[The Cloud]

1) Have you noticed that the only time you have this problem is when you think about it? Your problem isn't that you are afraid of judgment or that you don't know how to talk to people. Your problem is that you think you have a problem. I'm not saying that once you stop thinking of it as a problem that you'll suddenly be a master socialite. You probably won't. But you will no longer have a problem, and that is what you really want, isn't it? As long as you NEED to be able to talk to people, you will have a problem. Just accept that you may make horrible conversation. Maybe you're just terrible at talking. Maybe you just can't do it. Don't give up, just give in. This may be what you are right now. Right now isn't forever, and you can improve in the future, but right now is also all that you have. Accept it, and you will no longer have a problem.

2) Again, your problem here is that you have a problem with not wanting to do what you're told. It's alright to not want to be bossed around, this is perfectly acceptable. But if you take issue with yourself for feeling this way, then suddenly you have a problem on your hands. Maybe you could think about things differently. Maybe what's causing you to feel this way is that you are looking at the situation from the wrong perspective. But you'll never know if you spend all your time hating the feeling that is telling you what's wrong. That's like hating a thermometer for telling you that it's hot outside, or hating pain for telling you about the nail in your foot. Your anger is just a feeling, just pressure or heat. It's telling you something, and it is up to you to interpret it. Or you could just hate your pain and leave that nail in your foot.