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Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina  What you really need are more compatible friends who naturally want to discuss topics you consider interesting and important while you're sober.
Seeking out more compatible, growth-oriented friends will help you grow too.
Building social courage and learning to relax and have fun with people is great, but eventually you'll want to use those social skills to make friends who challenge you instead of hanging out with people who only care to discuss trivialities. |
I know exactly what he's talking about. It's not the type of conversations that's the point. The point is he's much looser and funnier and isn't bogged down with mental filters when he drinks. THAT'S the feeling he wants to have sober. I know. I was the same way when I was younger. What I learned is, you have to put yourself in that frame of mind without the alcohol and the only way to do that is to practice joking around with random strangers as much as you possibly can. Just keeping in mind that it doesn't matter if you weird them out sometimes because you'll never see them again. Practice practice practice... After a while, it'll become a habit and you'll be able to throw yourself into that state of mind anytime.
