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Originally Posted by Alexjstrandberg  I can't be sure what's going on (trust your gut) but I think she is cheating on you. When people change and get all weird in a relationship it's because of something they did. In this case she is projecting her own lack of integrity onto you. Be very careful of the distrustful girls and the ones who say "oh you would just get bored of me".
The distrustful ones distrust other people because they themselves aren't trustworthy. In a relationship context they tend to cheat first because they don't want to be the one cheated on because they will feel like a chump. |
I agree completely. As some one who has been cheated on in the past and then cheated on partners it becomes a vicious cycle of "get them before they get me".
Because of the hurts others have caused me in the past I am very cautious in my present day relationships. I also struggle with insecurities however it sounds like hers are taking over her life and yours. I would try and sit down and have an honest face to face chat with her at a neutral time when neither of you is upset. If you wait to broach the subject until the next time a disagreement arises it will only escalate if you try to confront her about her feelings.
It sounds like she needs constant reassurance that you are in to her, the question is do you want to spend the next X number of years providing that reassurance.
I would stress to her that you are choosing to be with HER, not your ex and that she can't control you. You can't stop a person from cheating, they will or they won't. It's how you are going to deal with the situation that ultimately matters.
Good Luck
Tanya