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robc · 07-16-2008, 03:17 PM

If you're wife separated from you, it was her decision.
I'm assuming you didn't just start dating the next day. I don't think it was necessary for you to wait till you were divorced to start dating, everyone's time is different here. Some people take longer to start dating again, some people may start again sooner.

Great sex aside (sex is important, read the other discussion on this very issue), do you feel you trust your wife to be with her again? Someone who separates from you and doesn't want to pursue relationship therapy then changes their mind after a while seems to be indecisive. Did you ask her why she wants to try again? Is she treating you better now? You started dating and you met someone new, how well do you know this person, are you able to compare her to your wife in certain ways (maybe it's too early for a fair comparison). Are you happy? How did you handle the separation, how long were you separated? During the separation, how was your interaction with your wife? Did you notice if she wanted to still be with you or was she cold/distant/apathetic towards you?

So many questions to ask on this.

07-16-2008, 03:17 PM	#4 (permalink)
robc Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 298	Well... If you're wife separated from you, it was her decision. I'm assuming you didn't just start dating the next day. I don't think it was necessary for you to wait till you were divorced to start dating, everyone's time is different here. Some people take longer to start dating again, some people may start again sooner. Great sex aside (sex is important, read the other discussion on this very issue), do you feel you trust your wife to be with her again? Someone who separates from you and doesn't want to pursue relationship therapy then changes their mind after a while seems to be indecisive. Did you ask her why she wants to try again? Is she treating you better now? You started dating and you met someone new, how well do you know this person, are you able to compare her to your wife in certain ways (maybe it's too early for a fair comparison). Are you happy? How did you handle the separation, how long were you separated? During the separation, how was your interaction with your wife? Did you notice if she wanted to still be with you or was she cold/distant/apathetic towards you? So many questions to ask on this.