I should in fairness, point out that I haven't yet read your article in full Alex, but I intend to.
I think the problem here, and perhaps this relates to what people are saying that they're not saying ..
Is that 'REAL MAN', has very masculine connotations (think 'John Wayne'), it suggest a person be 100% masculine energy, and 0% female energy; so in my eyes at least 'REAL MAN' eschews the natural female energy we all naturally have within.
Better than a man surrenders himself to the feminine; the feminine in a cosmic sense, that pervades the entire universe, and is within both himself, and of course, within women. Rather than trying to conquer or beat it in to submission, which I think, is a more traditional 'REAL MAN' mind-set.
Will defo read your post in full though Alex. Cheers.