[moriez]

Thanks for your replies guys

Originally Posted by Lauxa

It has helped me a little to just imagine the feelings of really connecting with people when I start to feel like I am shutting down and withdrawing. I can ask myself "If I were feeling really good and connected with these people, how would that feel?" and that helps move me to a better place.

That sounds pretty good. Once I would start doing this I know I would want to be all in the groups conversation. The problem is the mental brake. Something so strong is holding me back, playing it safe. The challenge is breaking through that.

Originally Posted by drummbellina

To deal with the second one I decided to work for myself so I could be my own boss.

Thats what I have been figuring and maybe should consider more seriously. But it would be so much better if this problem could be dealt with appropriately AKA not running away.

Also remind yourself that everyone else (well mostly) is more bothered about themselves and how THEY are coming across.

I guess that must be so so true but its hard to focus on that. I should try.

@z1freeride: Very interesting and very recognizable explanations for both #1 and #2. I will look into this more closely asap.

I am open to more insights from people so feel free to respond.