Yeah I've been in this situation and didn't handle it well at the time. I started a post earlier, about whether you can actually help anyone. Cut to the chase, you can't. If they choose help, you may be their means of help, or not, but it's their choice - not yours.
If you hang around with someone who's drowning, they will grab you and pull you under. You need to be true to yourself, and let them know honestly what's happening for you.
You may be able to continue an association while restricting contact like Flame mentioned.
I have done this with another friend (after the disasterous one) and that one still works well for me. I gave honest feedback and continue to do so, while practicing loving them for themselves. It's actually a great lesson for me in acceptance of people who are different. This is what I'm learning from it. But I keep sensible limits on the contact now, and try not to buy into their stuff.
You need to do what's right for you in this. It will be a great lesson learned, possibly all round!
Love to you
Hazel |