As Butters said in South Park:
"The only way I could feel this sad now, is if I felt somethin' really good before, so I have to take the bad with the good. So I guess what I'm feelin' is, like a beautiful sadness...
Please honor this pain. Do NOT do what I did:
A year and half ago, my fiancé killed himself hours after I broke up with him. I found a new boyfriend less than 4 months later. That relationship inevitably went down the toilet, and we broke up this March.
Fortunately, by then, I realized that I had to finally confront all the pain. Instead of running away into alcohol or a new man, I decided to use the pain as fuel for self-growth.
- Reading Eckhart Tolle's "A New Earth" and "Power of Now" was very helpful. Oprah did a 10-week webinar with Tolle, which was awesome.
- I used journaling, EFT, TAT, BSFF, NLP, inner child work, and hypnosis mp3's to work on all my issues. I found that I used relationships as a way to fill an emptiness inside me - so I learned new ways to fill that hole.
Of course I still cry over both these relationships. But it is a choice I make, to turn these lemons into lemonade. I could just easily turn them into rotten fruit.
So - how do you want to grow from this break-up?