I have the same problems and hope someone will have some good ideas.
On the first one, I've been told that I should be focusing on the other people and not myself, but it's very difficult for me to do. It has helped me a little to just imagine the feelings of really connecting with people when I start to feel like I am shutting down and withdrawing. I can ask myself "If I were feeling really good and connected with these people, how would that feel?" and that helps move me to a better place.
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