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Originally Posted by lightthecandle  however, my problem is that the advice only gets me so far...like it will help me for a few hours in changing my belief system/mindset.. but then i start feeling hopeless again..that the positivity that i gained from here wears off. (im really sorry to say this, and i don't mean to be rude or mean in anyway) but how do i solve that issue… |
You’ve received excellent advice here, as always. I’m so glad I found this website and this forum!
This particular sentence caught my attention because I believe it relates directly to your thinking. Take notice of which thoughts lead directly to feelings of hopelessness and actively choose better feeling thoughts. It all starts in the mind. Actively choose better feeling thoughts, repeatedly. At first it will feel fake. After enough time passes and your mind realizes you are serious about changing the way you think, you might even find yourself in a bit of a struggle. Your thinking evolved into its current pattern as a means of protecting you from some perceived threat and changing it now may evoke feelings of fear and anxiety. If you get past that though, you’ll find your ability to direct the course of your thinking will be far stronger. The upshot is you will no longer be at the mercy of your feelings. Hopelessness will stop being "inevitable".
Just a thought. Either way, the situation you described is not a problem as far as I can tell. How wonderful it must be to have so much time to imagine the world you’d like to live in! And I’m betting your imagination must be highly developed at this point. Maybe you should start thinking of yourself as an Imagineer!
Good luck!!!