 How do you decide?
Say you're married for several years, have a couple of great kids.
The relationship has always been "rocky", lots of fighting, lots of ups & downs.
You go through a separation and you stay separated for several months - after being told by your ex that she doesn't want to continue the marrage anymore about a billion times give or take a few, afer a while you just give up, you love her but she doesn't want to try marrage counseling, etc. Your heart breaks but you heal after a while and several months into the separation you start online dating and actually meet someone you like, you go on several dates and you really start liking this person alot. Then your wife tells you one day she wants to try again and go to marrage counseling. It throws you for a bit of spin, you are dating someone new who you like and she likes you and then your wife that you are separated from tells you that she wants to try again. Man is this a pickle! How do I know if my wife is serious, how can I tell? And if I still feel like that about my wife, how do stop dating this person who I'm really starting to like? If she's into me the way I think she is isn't this going to hurt her? Plus I like her alot too. I still love my wife but I won't stay married just for the kids, it has to be real for me - does that make sense? To make things even more confusing, I have recently gotten physically intimate with my wife/ex a few times - if I have to be honest, the sex was crazier & hotter than it ever was, almost animal like, never experienced anything like it - it was that good and I'm not just saying so to brag or anything. Again, does any of this make sense? If it does your the only one cause I'm totally confused. I'm not asking anyone to make the decision for me because that isn't fair and in the end it is up to me but some advice would be great. Is it normal to date while separated, should I have waited till the divorce? I'm not going steady/dating exclusivly or anything with the girl I just started dating but it feels weird, everything is complicated. I haven't had sex with the girl I'm dating either - wasn't ready for that. My wife knows that I'm dating too. Should I get my head examined because all it does is spin lately! Man this is weird stuff!!! Advice, suggestions, comments, anything would be welcome at this point.
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