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Originally Posted by Playlife  I can't talk about myself either as I'm quite literally a no-one. I know that it'd be better to be more interested in the other person, but I have this feeling that my conversation partner would also like to know about me, otherwise s/he could be talking to a wall as well. |
I remember when I was about 19, before I went to college, I met someone who seemed sooo interesting. He was a young tv director, he was confident, natural and together, and just seemed like his life was so full. while I felt so - uninteresting that I had nothing to say to him.
I remember after our "date" I felt so small and boring, but I decided that if I want to be with someone that interesting I have to become one.
The very next day I signed up for a drama course, a photography course, bought some canvases and started painting every day.
Within a few months I had a body of work. I sat in my favorite bar one day and showed the manager my oil paintings and told him I wanted to exhibit them there, and I did.
Shortly after my work was up, I met in this bar a very attractive, very interesting young man. he said to me, so what do you do? and I said well, these paintings on the wall are mine. that immediately impressed him and there started a wonderful love story that lasted several years.
I know that if I met this amazing guy before I had worked so hard on making myself into someone I was proud to be, I wouldnt have caught his attention as I did.
So- my feeling for you is that before you start dating, become someone
you would love to meet, instead of feeling like the "no-one" you describe yourself as.
A person is either interesting or they are not, its not something you can change by just thinking about it (or moving to another city)