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Jim11 · 07-13-2008, 09:04 PM

are you talking about something like online dating sites, or just meeting new people when you're moving?

You can't have a set lineup of what you're going to say to make someone interested in you. You need to just be natural, ask them questions, and work off of what they say...

Start with very basic things.
how are you?
are you from this area?
oh, I just moved here a couple weeks ago. seems like a nice spot. do they have ___ in the area? etc etc

just talk and show interest. You will eventually find people that are looking to meet new people as well....

if you move somewhere new, start doing some activities. eg: I like tennis, moved to a new spot - found several partners on kijiji. met other people from that, etc

Just put yourself out there more.
More interaction, more effort for natural conversation.... gives you more practice, more opportunities. It's all you can do.

Just avoid sitting on your computer and saying "I don't really like doing that", "these people probably aren't interested in conversing", and things along those lines.

07-13-2008, 09:04 PM	#4 (permalink)
Jim11 Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 213	are you talking about something like online dating sites, or just meeting new people when you're moving? You can't have a set lineup of what you're going to say to make someone interested in you. You need to just be natural, ask them questions, and work off of what they say... Start with very basic things. how are you? are you from this area? oh, I just moved here a couple weeks ago. seems like a nice spot. do they have ___ in the area? etc etc just talk and show interest. You will eventually find people that are looking to meet new people as well.... if you move somewhere new, start doing some activities. eg: I like tennis, moved to a new spot - found several partners on kijiji. met other people from that, etc Just put yourself out there more. More interaction, more effort for natural conversation.... gives you more practice, more opportunities. It's all you can do. Just avoid sitting on your computer and saying "I don't really like doing that", "these people probably aren't interested in conversing", and things along those lines. Last edited by Jim11; 07-13-2008 at 09:07 PM.