lightthecandle, I tend to daydream a lot too, and I've noticed something about it: my dreams always say a lot about what I need or want to
feel right now, without being aware of.
For instance, I'm working a lot, and suddenly I start daydreaming: in my fantasy I'm having a terrible accident! Oh boy, I'm half dead, and everybody is very worried about me, my friends and family are there, and my boyfriend holds my hand crying, and all this is very dramatic
I'm not able to control this daydream, it just happens, and it can be so strong that I really feel their pain and start crying.
You'll say, where's the point in daydreaming about having an accident. Well, fact is, in my fantasy I'm lying in a warm and soft (hospital) bed, not doing anything (because I'm injured so badly!), with everybody around flooding me with love... And then I realize that I haven't been taking enough care of myself lately. What I need is to take a break, be nice to myself, flood myself with love and rest. So I hide in my soft and warm bed for a while, do nothing, and sleep. When I wake up, I don't daydream about accidents and injuries anymore.
What I'm trying to say is that if you are like me, maybe your daydreams are signals for you to look at your relationship with yourself. I noticed that the more I'm tense and disconnected from myself, the less I have control over this daydreaming habit. Because I think it's how your subconscious or higher self or whatever tells you that you need something, and if you don't listen to yourself, it has to force it on you with a persistent daydream.
Of course you want to be rich and beautiful and Prince Charming to fall for you... that's trivial. What's interesting is: what does it say about your needs on a deeper level? What your wishes mean is not the same for everybody. One girl would want to be beautiful in order to have a good social status and feel powerful. Another one would want it in order to feel just respected. Another one in order to feel loved. See what I mean?
So what do your dreams represent for you? Don't fight against them, they're useful. Instead, listen to them. What are they telling you? How exactly do you
feel when you imagine all this? That's the emotion you need to experience now.
And then, the second step is: what could you DO (like me hiding in bed and sleeping) in order to create these very same emotions and feelings in your real life?
It doesn't have to be the same action as in your dream. I don't need to have an accident and get terribly injured. I just need to sleep and love myself. I think it's a mistake to think that you have to reach the same goal as in your dream. It's just about the
emotion you experience in your dream. There are other ways to create this emotion, find one!
Hope this helps?