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Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina  Your situation is practically right out of my book.
Truth (Chapter 1): Telll them anyway. Let them react however they wish. Does Islam teach people to hide the truth? Turning your back on truth is always a mistake.
Authority (Chapter 5): Tell them this too. You're in command of your life. No one else has to like it. Your decisions are yours to make.
You're always free to follow your own path. It isn't necessary for your family to like it. When you follow your own path for a while, you'll have the chance to connect with plenty of people who are more compatible with you, and you'll be a lot happier too.
Naturally. Those feelings are the result of turning your back on truth, love, and power. You've infected yourself with falsehood, disconnection, and cowardice. Turning back in the direction of truth, love, and power is the solution. It won't be easy, but it is correct.
Negative emotions = negative prediction. Your mind is predicting that your current actions will lead to a very undesirable outcome. You are heading in the direction of what you don't want. If you continue heading in that direction, the negative predictions will continue, as will the negative emotions.
If your family is going to oust you for being who you are, you might as well get it over with. If they can't respect your freedom to make your own choices now, then they're aligned with fear, not love, so your loyalty to them is misplaced. Your loyalty to your true self must be greater than this.
Courage (Chapter 6): If you follow the path with a heart, courage will always be required. Whatever you fear, you must face.
You already know all of this. |
My girlfriend had a similar situation (not that extreme but close). Her family was very controlling and manipulative. For a long time she was their little puppet and punching bag. She eventually started to stand up to them and they kicked her out of the house. She hasn't been back for 8 months now. It was difficult in the beginning but has gained massive self confidence and strength from it.
My advice is to not argue with them about their views or trying to convince them what you are doing is ok. When you have fear it's difficult for people to hear a word you have to say, especially when it's a fear of being damned and spending an eternity in a burning hell.
Accepting them they way they are and understanding that people do what they think is best for them whether it's right or wrong is going to be difficult. We all carry around expectations of what a family should be and it causes a lot of frustration and pain.
If it goes badly, keep posting the situation to work through some of the issues.
Good luck