yeah you can be friends with ex's but few are able to handle that. It is rare to find a girl (don't know if you are a guy or a girl) that has good enough self esteem to be able to mature enough and not vindictive after you break up. One who can can accept that you weren't compatible together and right for one another and feels no anger or resentment that can accept it and move on and still be friends.
People like that are very few in numbers in this world. Breakups are not easy to ones ego and people can't handle them most of the time. They either flaunt their new relationship in front of you or make passive aggressive comments if you get one first.
Most people try to remain friends after a break up because they either feel guilty for something or they think it is what they are supposed to do (even if they don't like the other person).
A lot of people stay friends in hopes that it will turn back into something more than just friends which ends up only causing more pain. Something in their egos won't let them accept that this person is still the same person they were when you dated them and will be the same person if you rekindle that love. And if they do get back together, the same problems that caused the breakup in the first place will be waiting there for them.
Ask yourself a couple of questions before deciding to be friends. Would you want to be friends with a person like if you had never dated them? Do you genuinely want to be friends or hoping that it will become something more? If you get a new relationship while being friends will they be able to handle it maturely?
If not, then don't worry about being friends with that person because it will make your life frustrating ending up with more resentment between the both of you.
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