I am currently trying to be friends with an ex.
We had always told each other that if we broke up we would do anything we could to be friends afterwards. So when we initially broke up, we quickly began to visit each other and soon started sleeping together again and after a few weeks we were pretty much back where we started.
So we took a real break. No contact. In the past two years we've made a few attempts to be friends, and always ended up sleeping together. Finally we just said goodbye one day and I decided I would leave it to her to contact me if she wanted. The months passed, then a year and I assumed we were never to see each other again.
But about a month ago she texted me out of the blue and wanted to see how I'm doing. We chatted on the phone and eventually set up a visit, with some ground rules: no alcohol, and no physical contact beyond a hug.
It seems to be working okay so far and I have no desire to sleep with her. I value her friendship very much, she is my only true confidant. I am comfortable with the idea of her seeing someone else, but I don't know how comfortable she is with my seeing other women. It remains to be seen.
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