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CroMagna · 07-10-2008, 11:24 PM

You said 'how do you get yourself to accept option B's?' My answer: you DON'T allow yourself to accept any option B's! Always always shoot for Plan A! Set your sights on a girl who's TEN times better than her, or hope that one will come along, but don't date or marry Girl B.

Trust me, if you settle, especially in relationships, you will be equally if not more unhappy in the end. My first boyfriend was the "oh give him a chance" guy. He was not that good looking, he was stout-looking and had a really serious acne problem, he had a yokel accent, he was just all around average. I was embarassed to show my family his picture. But I really wanted a boyfriend and there were no other available guys and he wasn't THAT bad. Plus everyone kept saying "oh give him a chance" because he's "really nice". Well I gave him a chance and soon fell in love. All his flaws disappeared in my love-sick mind. He look devilishly handsome and well-built, and had a seductive personality. I was in heaven. But in the back of my mind, I wondered if he was really the ONE. I couldn't see myself with him. Well, as fate would have it, he turned out to be a complete jerk and cheated. I was young naive (19) so this seemed like a huge betrayal. He also had an extremely passive-aggressive, manipulative streak. He was a master con-artist. Everything thinks he's nice, but he's probably one of the biggest jerks I've known. My point is that I was even MORE mad at myself because I know I had settled and had just "given him a chance". There have been other instances where I settled, for guys who were poor or not that intelligent or whatever and they turned out to be total jerks.

I've done the same with my major (English), jobs (Administrative Assistant), cars (94 Corolla), the result is the same. It comes back to bite you in the end. Trust me. For example I could have used the $500 I spent on the Corolla plus about $300 of gas towards a down payment on a newer car. Aim higher!

P.S. I'm about to get engaged to a great guy. He's not perfect, but he's pretty close to it.

07-10-2008, 11:24 PM	#190 (permalink)
CroMagna Family Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,975	You said 'how do you get yourself to accept option B's?' My answer: you DON'T allow yourself to accept any option B's! Always always shoot for Plan A! Set your sights on a girl who's TEN times better than her, or hope that one will come along, but don't date or marry Girl B. Trust me, if you settle, especially in relationships, you will be equally if not more unhappy in the end. My first boyfriend was the "oh give him a chance" guy. He was not that good looking, he was stout-looking and had a really serious acne problem, he had a yokel accent, he was just all around average. I was embarassed to show my family his picture. But I really wanted a boyfriend and there were no other available guys and he wasn't THAT bad. Plus everyone kept saying "oh give him a chance" because he's "really nice". Well I gave him a chance and soon fell in love. All his flaws disappeared in my love-sick mind. He look devilishly handsome and well-built, and had a seductive personality. I was in heaven. But in the back of my mind, I wondered if he was really the ONE. I couldn't see myself with him. Well, as fate would have it, he turned out to be a complete jerk and cheated. I was young naive (19) so this seemed like a huge betrayal. He also had an extremely passive-aggressive, manipulative streak. He was a master con-artist. Everything thinks he's nice, but he's probably one of the biggest jerks I've known. My point is that I was even MORE mad at myself because I know I had settled and had just "given him a chance". There have been other instances where I settled, for guys who were poor or not that intelligent or whatever and they turned out to be total jerks. I've done the same with my major (English), jobs (Administrative Assistant), cars (94 Corolla), the result is the same. It comes back to bite you in the end. Trust me. For example I could have used the $500 I spent on the Corolla plus about $300 of gas towards a down payment on a newer car. Aim higher! P.S. I'm about to get engaged to a great guy. He's not perfect, but he's pretty close to it.