We've talked about counseling before. She had her own run in couseling (non-marrital) during post-partum depression 4 years ago. (can-of-worms...I won't go on about it, though it's probably all connected)
The problem with couseling is, things are going pretty good right now. And it's not like we don't have sex. We do, 2 or 3 times a month. She "hangs her hat" on that fact. So it is ME who is unreasonable.
If I had my druthers, we'd have sex 3 times a week,(6-8 times a cycle). Why am I so fixated on the quantity? That's just my body. I know what I want. That may be unreasonable. But for her, a well planned raincheck scheme will get her down to 2 or 3 times.
You are right about her not just having fun with it. It is serious. Sometimes she reminds me a a male preying mantis. She doesn't want to for some reason, but eventually when we do, it is great and explosive. I'm like "why don't you want to do that all the time?"
She gets mad if I pinch her butt in the afternoon. She doesn't like me to think of her in a sexual way. But then we have sex and she's suddenly a sexual being. It's like bi-polar sexuality or something! It's off or it's on. And it's only ON during sex itself.
I'll try to talk with her. But it's tough. RIght now I'm on day 5 without sex when I originally wanted it 4 days ago. I'm hopeful for tonight, so I don't want to get all heavy on the talking! On and on it goes....
Should I tell her after dinner that I "want her tonight"? You know, the direct approach? Or should I open the can of worms and tell her about my sexual frustrations?
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