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Originally Posted by Holistic Star  A couple of questions:
1. When you feel jealous where do you feel it in your body? Where do you physically feel the intensity?
2. What thoughts do you have to think to make yourself feel jealous?
(What I mean by that is, if I see my partner talking to someone else and laughing I just assume they've said something funny - what do I have to think to make myself feel jealous of the situation?) |
1. It happens pretty much instantly. It's a general feeling of anxiety all over. I start to become hyper-aware of my surroundings and definitely stop thinking rationally. I'm aware of what's happening but the effect is so strong that I tend not to be able to focus on anything but the effect.
2. I've been thinking about the thoughts part and I've come to the conclusion that it's because I feel inadequate. If someone makes her laugh then I start w/ an avalanche of thoughts about how I don't do that (when I really do) and how he is more attractive to her than I am at that moment. It's quite unpleasant.
*. I've been making strides toward overcoming this as of late, all a result from everyone's advice. THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH FOR YOUR HELP, it's nice to hear it form other people & to just use this site as a sounding board even if nobody listens. Thx again.
