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Originally Posted by marklang500  ...
Just so you know, she is a stay home mom. I provide all the money, AND I do half the dishes, half the laundry, and half of the bathing the children. I'm a good dad. I'm a good husband. I don't party with the guys anymore. I don't go to strip clubs, I don't watch porn. (I don't even masturbate unless sh'es on her period, because I never know when she'll finally want sex.)
Oh, but I never say, "I deserve sex" or surely not "you owe me sex". |
Of course you never say it, you're displaying classic Nice Guy behavior. You're making an imaginary contract by being the provider, by doing half the chores, by being a NICE GUY. Naturally, you think that by being good, you will get what you want, sex. Your wife never agreed to that. She probably doesn't understand you think this way.
You have needs, be upfront about them. Forget about trying to earn what you want by being a good husband and good dad, etc. You must say what you want. It'll be a good conversation; she probably has unfulfilled needs too. Be frank with eachother.
For more on nice guy mistakes, read
No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover.