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Peyem · 07-08-2008, 10:58 PM

I can't say I know much about your situation, but one thing I didn't see in this thread (maybe I missed it) is just try to focus on the good things of being a woman instead of the bad things about it.

There are a lot of benefits to being a man. There are also a lot of negative things men have to deal with. The same can be said of women.

I don't think a direct comparison of the two is fair. Who works harder? Who has it easier? Who complains more? Who is tougher? Who always gets the ****-end of the stick?

There's really no generalization. I can think of both men and women in my life that can fit the answer to any of those questions and more.

My point is, it's a big grass is greener situation. Just work on embracing who you are. Easier said than done (I seem to be completely lost myself, but have a far easier time finding other peoples' problems than my own).

Also, a lot of the negative backlash you will get from men on this topic comes from the "fragile male ego". I can't speak from the other side, but women have an immense amount of power to make a man feel like crap almost instantly. Millions of women do it daily and don't even realize it. Men also do their damnedest to not show that it has any effect on them. I mention this because if you were to start the topic and say "I want the same respect men get" you may very well spark up a defensive reaction and not realize why. There's some examples of that in this thread.

07-08-2008, 10:58 PM	#29 (permalink)
Peyem Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 28	I can't say I know much about your situation, but one thing I didn't see in this thread (maybe I missed it) is just try to focus on the good things of being a woman instead of the bad things about it. There are a lot of benefits to being a man. There are also a lot of negative things men have to deal with. The same can be said of women. I don't think a direct comparison of the two is fair. Who works harder? Who has it easier? Who complains more? Who is tougher? Who always gets the ****-end of the stick? There's really no generalization. I can think of both men and women in my life that can fit the answer to any of those questions and more. My point is, it's a big grass is greener situation. Just work on embracing who you are. Easier said than done (I seem to be completely lost myself, but have a far easier time finding other peoples' problems than my own). Also, a lot of the negative backlash you will get from men on this topic comes from the "fragile male ego". I can't speak from the other side, but women have an immense amount of power to make a man feel like crap almost instantly. Millions of women do it daily and don't even realize it. Men also do their damnedest to not show that it has any effect on them. I mention this because if you were to start the topic and say "I want the same respect men get" you may very well spark up a defensive reaction and not realize why. There's some examples of that in this thread.