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Originally Posted by Keith  If he truly is in a place where he doesn't want a long-term relationship, that's entirely reasonable (though decency dictates that you let the girl know that up front!).
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Exactly! Was thinking of this as I was reading the first post and hey, Keith, you've hit the nail on the head IMHO.
Birger, it does sounds like you're not ready for a committed long-term relationship whatsoever. Because a relationship means progressing and moving onto different phases together with your partner, that includes the heart-thumping excited feeling fading away and replacing with something mature, more steady which we call love and not just that dizzy in-love feeling you are craving and pursuing.
Let the next girl know you're not the type of man yet to be in a relationship so it makes your job much easier. It's also for the sake of the girl too. Let her know early so she has a choice to make, whether she is willing to take such a risk and be with you, or not. Or she could also be the same type of person as you! But the thing is to let her make the decision so that she'll know how to handle her emotions better when your warning became a reality 6 months down the road.
And it also sounds like she really loves you, not the other way round
You don't have to feel excitement with a new person. You can feel it by doing different things with the same person.