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Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity}  I feel I will be betrayed if I fully trust someone with no reservations. I've known this and I've even dealt with what betrayal really is, whether it exists, but the fear persists and I know it has an effect on how I deal with others. |
One thing I would ask here is what is the fear of betrayal about? Is it a fear of being used and abused? Is it a fear of being wronged? What is this fear? Is it the fear of consequences of being misled?
Also do note that I'm not advocating blind trust here. I myself tend to trust people when the consequences for that trust being misplaced are small. If the consequences are larger, like say lending 1000$, I will be alot more careful with my trust. Actually if anything I am very trusting regardless. Part of it boils down to I think about the consequences first and if I'm ok with the worst case scenario then I'm fine with trusting them.
I can't offer a solution for the sharing of stuff. I know that for myself I've gone in 50/50 on stuff that I've barely used and other people use alot. I view it as I felt it was worth the 50% back then and I still have the ability to get my 50% out of it now.
If this is something that he's using too much and infringing on your ability to use then I would definately agree that there is a problem. I don't have any clear answers though. I'd just recommend come to a common understanding and have a clear agreement from both of you about what is going to happen. Preferably one that suits you both.