I have not been in the situation of being jealous, but I have been in the situation where my bf was jealous, so I will give a little advice there. It is normal to talk to other people whether they are male or female. Simply getting jealous b/c your gf is talking to other guys is probably insecurity. Figure out why you don't like it. Be honest with yourself. It is ok to talk to others. It is ok for you to talk to other girls. The difference is if your gf is touching, overly flirting, sitting on the lap, teasing them with sexual discussion, etc..... You have to trust, period. Normally, people just talk. Women can make bad choices, flirt too much, etc.. So can men. So, just live and enjoy your life, enjoy her and all she provides and don't worry about the rest. If something should happen to make you question her intentions, discuss it with her, but NEVER show her your insecurity. Women want to be trusted, especially when they aren't doing anything wrong. That was a instant turnoff for me and many of my friends if we were ever confronted with that type of jealousy. It doesn't do any good and will never help the relationship. She is her own person and you need to respect that. Don't be the kind of guy that needs for the woman to always prove her faithfulness. That is actually controlling and really, you will only attract women that will stand for being treated like that. That type of woman is probably not the type of woman who is self confident, independent, knows who she is and what she wants. Women who have it together won't tolerate that for long. Just my 2 cents.
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