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Originally Posted by Remiel  Well... he's got you spot on for lying. If it were me I'd set up some boundaries and consequences for when those boundaries are broken. If I had been lying to him I would need to rebuild my honesty and integrity so he could trust me.
With the boundaries if he steps over them then there needs to be consequences and it may be that those consequences are you won't allow him to come over for a week. And if he steps over that then its a month. If he steps over that then I'd probably tell him that I won't have anything to do with him until he gets his act together.
On a side note has something happened in your friends life to cause this? Perhaps this is a situation that you can help him through.
Regardless though if the relationship is detrimental and stays detrimental then its best to do something even if it means stepping away from the relationship. I've had to step away from a detrimental relationship with my brother for the reason that it wasn't healthy for myself. I'm more than willing to get back together with my brother when something has changed but until I see an effort to change I don't see a reason to put myself into that sort of a detrimental relationship. |
Thanks for the reply, Remiel. I appreciate it.
Has something happened in his life? Well, he came over to America [from Pakistan] in 2003, and I just met him last year. He complains that there's nothing to do in the town here (and he's right, for the most part), which is why I'm usually the one that he wants to hang out with all the time since the distance from where he lives to where I live is not that far whatsoever. He has other friends, but it looks like they pull the same exact thing as I did (the pitiful lies), because he tells me how they never want to hang out even when they have free time.
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Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity} Give him the XBOX? |
I sure do wish it was that simple. He doesn't have a way to connect to Xbox Live at his house, because he has his television and computer in completely different rooms, thus doesn't want to make the attempt to rearrange.