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Originally Posted by clueless  I'm amazed at how spot-on you are, kind of tempted to defend myself but I think you're right. I am afraid of weirding him out. In him, I see a much braver version of myself and when he's around I'm able to do more things outside of my comfort zone. I think that's what I'm afraid of losing. And thanks for the affirmations. It was funny saying them out, but they worked lol. |
hahah defensive just means I'm right. Interesting side note for people trying to fully get a handle on their emotions, any time you feel defensive, arguing or trying to explain yourself to others stop and ask yourself why? A big reason is you are trying to convince others of something you dont believe yourself or something you don't want to admit to yourself.
Keep at those affirmations. at first it will seem weird and kind of like you are convincing yourself of something but eventually they will set in and you will be on autopilot.
My guess is this guy isn't like most of the guys you have dated ("I feel braver around him") Since he is a change of pace from the typical guys you have dated you felt a large amount of attraction and have become addicted to it.
We tend to attract people who either come into our lives to teach us lessons or people who compliment us. He compliments you in being brave and courageous. He reflects back to you what you want for yourself.
Until you decide to get the brave part down for yourself you will always want and desire that aspect of him. You will feel that need for the way he makes you feel until you find courage within yourself.
Ask him how he got to be that way and compliment and appreciate what he has. From there make a decision to become brave by facing your own fears.