Bingo, I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this.
I agree with the other posters that your friend would benefit most from a professional's help but I wanted to suggest some resources for you as well.
I don't know where you're located but, if it's in the USA, most major cities have a Gay Crisis Line. When I lived in New York, I used to work for the oldest such organization, the Gay & Lesbian Switchboard of New York. We were not only there for people in immediate crisis but their friends and loved ones, too. And, in addition to being someone to talk to, we had whole lists of resources for our callers. Over the years, more of these organizations have spead so I would suggest calling the city nearest you. If that doesn't help, call the NY one; they have national organizations to which to refer you.
If you live outside of the US, there may still be a similar organization near you. If not, there is an international organization called The Samaritans (or its translation in the local language). They are a (nnon-LGBT) suicide prevention organization and they could help you and your friend.
I know this is a difficult situation for you and I strongly repeat what the other responders have said: no matter what your friend choses to do with his life, it is NOT your fault. Blaming yourself, if (God forbid) he chooses to acton his plans, serves NO purpose and is INACCURATE.
Please let me know how this works out.
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