"how can I show him I'm interested without being clingy" you are trying to not have someone think of you as clingy which is only needy. It's asking "how do I appear to not be needy?" but trying to act needy is just a way to cover up the neediness. The problem with that is that it is still needy.
It's ok to think about someone. It's ok to like someone. It's to want to tell that person how you feel about them (my gf says she loves me all the time). The problem comes when these things become needy.
Most people assume the above is needy in nature because TYPICALLY needy people do these types of things. There are no needy actions, only needy people. You can do anything and have it be fine as long as its not needy.
From your worrying about this I can tell you are needy. You are holding back speaking your truth (how you feel about him) because you don't want to weird him out and run the risk of losing him. You don't want to lose him because you feel there is a part of yourself that is missing that needs to be filled externally (him)-basically you feel as though you are not enough.
From this fear of losing him you begin to judge yourself for feeling this way. If you judge yourself for something, anything you will fear the judgments of others instead of not being concerned with what other people think of you.
MOST people will advise you to act aloof, to pull back and pretend to not show much interest which is just horrible advise. The problem is that you feel like you are not enough NOT how much interest you show in another person.
here is a couple of affirmations that will help you with your neediness.
"I am enough"
"I accept change and freely let go of my insecurities, doubts and fears"
"I trust the universe to supply with an abundance"
say these affirmations over and over whenever you feel like you are being needy. Breathe.
Whenever you find yourself judging yourself for anything say the following affirmations:
"I love and accept myself completely"
and
"I am truly loved"
hope this helps
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