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Originally Posted by seeker5  So how can we become that person? That person who has no fear of losing everything & anything they have because they know if they do, they won't get into a huge depression/negative-emotion filled life but instead will be able to get excited about building their lives over again. |
Well, you will lose everything eventually, whether you fear it or not. You can count on it. When will you be ready?
If you lost any or all of the stuff you listed, you still wouldn't have lost what's of real value -- the source
that you are of living a life you love.
You can spend some of your valuable time now fretting about what might happen someday (what WILL happen someday), if you like. But the price of doing that is Presence -- you don't get to actually live your life now, and you know that now is all you've got. Or you could practice Trust. You are okay right now, right? Your life and limb is not in any imminent danger, is it? No thief is crawling through your apartment looking for jewelry or your girlfriend to rob from you right now, is there? Practicing trust means: acknowledging that you're ok right now, and letting that be worthy of gratitude now. Trust means reminding yourself that whatever happens, you are the source of your life and you will handle it.
I love that mantra in the face of possible future challenges: "I'll handle it!" It allows me to let go and be present. You might want to have some fun with it, and practice letting go of stuff with love, right now. Give away a belonging that is very meaningful for you, and allow yourself to be present to whatever it provides for another person. Get that the real value of the object lies in its capacity for generous expression, not in its physical presence in your life. Practice giving people away, too. Grant the people you are most attached to the freedom to be who they are, rather than belongings of yours. See what magic happens when you focus on giving it all away, and let go of holding on.
Thanks for reminding me.