I suppose you realize that you _can_ find the things you leave behind in different flavors elsewhere. From your story about the almost-dead Toastmasters club you could learn that it might happen that for some time you (realistically) have less/different amounts of things you were used to. That in itself provides room for new things, and, like with the club, while it might take some time, you can transform the new situation by persevering/overcoming your fear: You don't have to let the idea of having friends etc. in a new city die because you don't know any yet or because moving to the new city might kill off a few things you're used to. And as suggested elsewhere (by Angela, iirc) you could try forming relationships of (e. g.) mutual interest ahead of time. That way you'll have some seeds planted when you arrive, rather than guessing whether you've Fight Club-ish hit the bottom yet.
Yet another different way of viewing it (and something that has helped me in situations where something was lost/ended etc.): Focus on the positive. It sometimes takes a bit of effort to find something positive in a car wreckage, but when it has happened it won't magically un-wreck itself. That said, small steps are easier than huge ones (and the yearning for old, known situations can create the wish to magically rebuild what was left behind in a single, huge leap).
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