first, you don't have to be monogamous. You can have several relationships simultaneously, just be honest with the girls about it. There are many people, including girls, who live this way.
Second, you don't have to be in any relationship at all. You can remain single, date one or several women at the same time, and tell them that you won't commit to more. Again just be honest about it. There are also many people, including girls, who live this way.
Third, just because you "appear somewhere" with a girl, talk to her, go out with her, flirt with her, are alone with her, or even invite her at your home to have dinner and watch a movie together... doesn't mean you immediately have to have sex with her. If you're still feeling uncomfortable around women as soon as you're not dancing, maybe getting relaxed would be the first step to make? See many women privately, do things together, spend 1:1 time with them, talk a lot, laugh... and wait till you're very comfortable with any woman before you decide.
Now it's like you're entering a bakery full of cakes and they all look so delicious that you don't know which one to eat. Maybe when you know them better you'll realize they're not all cakes you want to eat.
Just my spontaneous 2 cts.
