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Originally Posted by seo1  I’m a 20 year old guy and I have been having some trouble socially since the beginning of HS but it has changed a little in the last few years. My world view seems so different from that of my peers. Most people my age are happy drinking a forty, doing someone and passing out for the night (ha). This has never been my way. Romantic relationships have never come easily either. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not some W.O.W nerd or anything. I’m above average in the looks department, I’m very athletic and defined, fairly intellectually intelligent and extremely emotionally intelligent. Most importantly, I’m not conceited or a jerk of any kind. These problems extend into all areas of social interaction. I feel that I just can’t relate or connect well with others and even less so with people my own age. I feel like my personal experiences are a bit outside the realm of the norm. I've experienced great spiritual and psychic growth in the last few years and it seems to have changed my outlook greatly. I wasn’t abused or mistreated or anything and I’m not some sort of mentally ill person either. I haven’t dissociated myself from people; I simply feel that I don’t fit well into social or workplace situations. I can’t related to others well and I don’t operate on the same level that they do. Has anyone else had any similar experiences? I’d like a little advice to help with this ongoing problem.
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I understand you. I have always felt a little bit different then the rest of the pack. Not weird or socially retarded but just into different things and being a different person.
Have you seen the movie kill bill 2? If not, in the movie one of the main guys was talking to his old girlfriend that was an assassin who gave up that life to live a normal life. He gave the analogy of super man when talking about her situation. He said that superman puts on a Clark Kent outfit every day to blend in with the rest of the crowd but underneath that disguise he is still superman. Clark Kent is the disguise he used to blend in with the rest of the crowd but no matter what clothes he put on or how he acted, he was still superman.
That is how I felt for a long time. I tried to fit in and mold myself to becoming like everyone else, even though on some level I knew it wasn't who I was. It was only after I accepted myself and had the courage to be who I truly was did I begin to feel a lot better about myself and life.
I'm not anti-social but I never try to be anyone other than me. A good bit of people think that I am anything but normal but normal is how I view myself because I am completely comfortable with who I am.
Another thing that helped greatly was finding people who were a little "off" themselves. In the past I would feel alone surrounded by people. A lot of wounds healed when I found out that there were other people similar to who I was.
Be careful not to let yourself think that you are better than other people. If you do begin to feel that way it's just your way of dealing with your own insecurities.
Cheers!