[coLLege kid07]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

It isnt that i'm not worthy of a diamond,it's that diamonds are everywhere,falling from the sky,landing in your lap,practically begging you to have them. It isnt that i dont think i deserve someone who is so willing to love me,its that i cant make myself want someone who ALREADY wants me. Most things in life are like this,you dont appreciate things that are forced on you. You appreciate the things you have to work for. The things that you WANT to have before you have them. What fun is it to get everything you want before you even know you want it?



Why is this such a bad thing? lol I mean,i want to be saved,so naturally it would be a good thing if this happened,and if i could save someone else too. I dont see how this is bad at all.



I dont want him to NEED me as in he doesnt have a life without me or doesnt feel happy without me. I want a man who doesnt need to be in a relationship. I dont want to be his lifeline. Maybe when i talk about saving someone it means different than what you think. Maybe its just the wrong word (i am bad at wording things,if you cant tell already LOL) I just want to HELP him.



LOL That makes it sound so bad though! I dont want someone to be a spineless follower who worships me. I want an equal. And by swooping in and making a difference,he would also be doing that to me. Equality!



I didnt say i didnt want a good boy. It just so happens that every good boy i've ever met is clingy and desperate. Theyre too busy trying to prove to everyone how good they are. I would like a good guy who is shy,down to earth,has a life of his own,can be friends first,and doesnt need a relationship,isnt looking for one,in fact. Good guys are always out there practically begging girls to date them because they're "so dateable". Like i said in my opening paragraph,its hard to want something that you don't get a chance to want,its practically thrown at you.



Enlighten me! lol Is it because they dont have the patience that i do? Because he didnt have enough money to buy them designer clothes and jewelry? Because most women get turned off by shy,insecure guys?

I'd try working on your values to fit what you're trying to explain to everyone. As for trying to save someone...that is a really bad idea. It means you are catoring to someone's insecurity whereas insecurity is not necessarly a good thing in itself. It's like comforting someone when they're doing an unwanted behavior. Maybe on a personal level it looks like you're helping them, but on a spiritual and emotional level you're actually hurting them...causing them to make it feel like doing that "behavior" is a good thing. Maybe it is you that need's the saving...=/ What do you really desire in a relationship? What things are truly important to you when it comes to relationships? My suggestion is find out where your values truly lie and from there you'll be able to live the life you truly want. Good luck