seo1, this sounds just like me. I find it very difficult to connect with people. Even when I make the effort to be social (sober or after drinking), I can get along with people, but I never connect with them. I know lots of people, but only a very small handful do I really connect with and would consider friends. Most of them I've known since I was a kid, so I guess that doesn't really count.
These days, it's impossible for me to meet someone I really click with and can just get along with them like I've known them for years. I have a unique personality and unique interests (none of them bad or weird, just different from most people), and it's hard to find people that like similar things.
I too have been undergoing a lot of personal development lately. Most of it this year. But I've had several big life changes in the past 2 years which has forced me to change (for the better!
). I'm 24, and most of the people I currently hang out with are all older than me, but I am much more mature than them and I have a very different outlook on life, therefore my relationship with these people is always distant and strained.
My family always used to say that I intimidate people because I'm an intellegent woman (who is also pretty tall). Therefore, people get scared and don't give me the chance to connect with them. I don't know if that's the reason for my inability to connect, but it I like thinking that it could be other people with the problem - not me.
So if you're a handsome, intellegent person, maybe other people are intimidated by this and feel that they won't be able to connect with you. Maybe it's not you with the problem, it's other people. It's something they have to deal with, not you.
But don't fret. Try to keep telling yourself that there are people out there that you will be able to relate to, you just have to find each other. Are there any societies or clubs you can join in your area where there are likely to be people like you?