 I know what you're going through...
Wow can I relate with your post...I've also been through a tough tormenting and confusing breakup which has thrown me and my life out of sync. We're a similar age and I sense to a certain degree the same work environments. I'm not out of it yet but I've had to REALLY work hard to lift myself out of this slump/dip/difficult time. From my side I must say the first thing you need to do is stop making this person either the reason for your slump or sadness, effectively (regardless of how painful it would be) you need to take 100% responsibility for your life, from that point you can start changing things.
I started simply, defining key goals that when achieved would bring serious happiness/rewards/motivation/meaning to my life. That's one of the first things I discovered as being important (as we tend to struggle for meaning if we invested so much of our meaning into another person/relationship) for getting out of the slump.
The fact that you're overseas is unfortunate as a large part of my 'just being able to get through it' has been thanks to spending time with other people/friends, even if I wasn't the best company just being around others helped, what are your interests, hobbies, groups you could connect with in this other country?
This too shall pass...believe me  |