Welcome sarahme. Thanks for sharing with us.
You seem focused on finding a life partner, the right guy, the one. Your recent breakup sparked a dilemma and feelings that your life is off course. Rather than being confined to the social, it cut deeply across all areas of your life. You now feel out of control, sad, lonely, and worried.
First, realize that nothing is wrong. Nothing is wrong. Everything is on track. Nothing lasts forever, but nothing is broken because of it. Your relationship ended and it did so to help you. You said you realize now that the guy wasn't the one. You spent only six months, and your world realized it wasn't right. It changed itself to prevent you the pain of an even longer relationship. Nothing is wrong with that.
You mention that the guy was perfect on paper, but not in reality. Could this be your universe telling you that a perfect resume is not enough for you? Perhaps you have limiting beliefs about what the perfect person will be. I'm not sure if this is the case, and you're free to reject to it. You said you don't see yourself meeting someone decent where you are. You referred to it as a dump. Could your universe be trying to tell you that your judgments based on impression are overly hasty? The most brilliant people I've met came from areas people would view as "dumps". I've met a quantum physics, philosophy, and international politics PhD living on the streets of New Orleans near a library. I've met a brilliant, ambitious financial planner working as a waiter in a shoddy hookah bar in Memphis. Brilliant people live in dumps, too. Your universe may be conspiring to open your eyes to these people where you live. Or it might've just been conspiring to have you join our little cyberdump
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Any advice would be very much appreciated. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this and trying to help :0)
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I hope things work out well for you. Others here have more hands-on, practical advice and are masters at relationships. Just from the way you ended, you seem like an intelligent, charming person. I believe you'll do well.