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Originally Posted by Rockchick26  But i find this flower,pick it,and take care of it,knowing that soon it will completely bloom and be thankful that i saved it,out of ALL the flowers,i chose to believe in the one no one else was willing to save. |
I dunno, RockChick. In my experience, people ultimately resent being saved. They will end up thinking you have a Jesus complex. And if a man can't save himself, you will ultimately not respect him.
I strongly suspect that you are talking about what in my experience is the most common female fantasy: The Diamond in the Rough (tm). This plays out in many ways, including:
1) I'm not worthy of a diamond, so I will find one that needs a little work and polish it up myself (diamonds are the hardest substance known to man. They aren't easy to polish).
2) He will be eternally grateful to me for saving him (good luck with that!)
3) He will always need me (maybe so, but he will hate himself for needing you and hate you for making him dependent on you).
4) I will feel great about myself because I have swooped in and Made A Difference (for who? Not for him -- he didn't think enough of himself to be a self-made man. It's for you -- he owes you godess-worship).
What is wrong with good boys, anyway? Saves you a lot of trouble and alot of responsibility that isn't really yours anyway. What is it about good boys that puts you off?
--Bob
PS: There is a REASON no one else was willing to save that flower. Hint: it isn't because they fail to see the value in the flower, or because they lack your huge capacity for compassion.