David DeAngelo teaches 50% personal development and 50% seduction, but is advertised as only the latter. He teaches great, mature material that focuses on becoming a strong, emotionally stable, well-rounded, intellectual person.
I think the field of "seduction" is a great path to personal development. For many of us, thoughts of girls, relationships, and sex claim a significant portion of mental territory. On the outside we are normal people, expressing ourselves through our hobbies or interests. But inside our mental state seems to be solely dictated by our relationships, fantasies, and interactions with the opposite sex.
Since this is the case, since the obsessive thoughts of the opposite sex are intrinsically intertwined with who our "true selves" are, it only makes sense that improving this aspect of our lives is a very efficient and effective path of personal development.
By "improving this aspect of our lives" I don't necessarily mean "have more sex" or "find a girlfriend"; a great way to improve that aspect is to change perspective! Become an emotionally sound individual, so (in the words of DeAngelo) outside events don't destabalize you.
I've been listening to seduction material for two months now. I have noticed that I've become more attractive to women (many more show interest), but I have not yet found any relationships, flings, hook-ups, what-have-you. Regardless, the quality of my life has improved significantly because I am now very comfortable with everything that once caused so much anxiety in the past: I'd be comfortable in a relationship, I'm comfortable without one, I'm comfortable talking with women no matter the circumstance, I'm comfortable with the "games" women play, I'm comfortable with all of my thoughts, and I'm comfortable with myself. This is a drastic improvement from the old mindset, which included thoughts like, "I'll be happy once I have a girlfriend," and included the frequent frustration with women in general. The point is, listening to or reading "seduction" material has made me much more comfortable with the fact that I'm not in a relationship.
My only wish is that more guys were open to it. Most guys wouldn't be caught reading a seduction book--there are several reasons why. But in the end it's all very helpful and intelligent stuff.  |