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september · 06-30-2008, 06:51 AM

My SO has been both strong and weak, brilliant and forgetful, proud and humble, funny and serious.

I look for dynamic people who aren't afraid to change. Laying out the requisite personality traits for a man or a woman isn't going to help you find a right person for you. Then you're effectively looking for a static person. I think it takes intuitive experimentation to find out which people best complement each other, because they tend to showcase certain elements and play down others... but this changes. What's great is when you find someone who changes naturally with you, and whom you change naturally with. You both grow together.

The chauvinist snips toward the women who have posted so far have not gone unnoticed. Most people don't bother to do intensive introspection about every area of their lives, both men and women. Locating one contradiction in a post doesn't necessitate your superiority over women, nor does it invalidate everything the poster tried to contribute to the thread in the maybe 15 minutes it took to write the post. This kind of pseudo-rationalist d**kwaving wouldn't stand outside these forums, where sexism is sanctioned in this bizarre ritualistic pseudo-religious masculine/feminine divide.

06-30-2008, 06:51 AM	#34 (permalink)
september Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: IL Posts: 83	My SO has been both strong and weak, brilliant and forgetful, proud and humble, funny and serious. I look for dynamic people who aren't afraid to change. Laying out the requisite personality traits for a man or a woman isn't going to help you find a right person for you. Then you're effectively looking for a static person. I think it takes intuitive experimentation to find out which people best complement each other, because they tend to showcase certain elements and play down others... but this changes. What's great is when you find someone who changes naturally with you, and whom you change naturally with. You both grow together. The chauvinist snips toward the women who have posted so far have not gone unnoticed. Most people don't bother to do intensive introspection about every area of their lives, both men and women. Locating one contradiction in a post doesn't necessitate your superiority over women, nor does it invalidate everything the poster tried to contribute to the thread in the maybe 15 minutes it took to write the post. This kind of pseudo-rationalist d**kwaving wouldn't stand outside these forums, where sexism is sanctioned in this bizarre ritualistic pseudo-religious masculine/feminine divide. __________________ dishing out tough love.