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Originally Posted by Rockchick26  Yeah you interpreted that pretty good! Real,yeah...like a guy who lets his insecurities show. But,ironically,thats probably why i tend to like bad boys because i know deep down they ARE real (i mean,obviously EVERYONE is real),i just want to dig down to that part and get him to trust me enough to expose it. I want to work for it.
Here's a good analogy. You're walking through a field of flowers and you want to pick one. All the flowers are beautiful,in full bloom,waving in the wind practically begging for you to pick them. I'm the girl who looks for the flower that is a little bit smaller than the others,that hasnt fully bloomed yet,was stepped on a few times,and is afraid that,in the shadow of all the other flowers,he will never be able to bloom and never be seen as beautiful. But i find this flower,pick it,and take care of it,knowing that soon it will completely bloom and be thankful that i saved it,out of ALL the flowers,i chose to believe in the one no one else was willing to save.
Damn that was beautiful if i do say so myself!  |
Just from what you've said here, I've dated women like yourself on more than one occasion. It's always been a good relationship, a good mix (not that I'm trying to hit on you, btw). They appreciate me for being a man, if that makes any sense. They want to be a feminine woman in a relationship and me to be the masculine man ("a man's man" type thing).
In my experience one of two reason's caused the relationship to come to an end. One is that whole clingy thing you mentioned. I start being a bitch in other words. The other reason is that she becomes too controlling (smothering). To go along with your analogy, if you don't give your flower some water and a place in the sunshine, it dies. Sometimes it dies even when you do. Either way, you can't make it do anything. All you can do is create the best conditions and see what happens.
That's just my experience and also I could be totally off about who you are. Not trying to put you in a box or anything.