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Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo  Am I not devoted to him just because I focus on something else? Do you think that's bad? |
Yes, absolutely you can be, and no it's not bad!
Our first obligation is to ourselves and to be the best we can be. It's hard to be a good partner to anyone if you are not happy with yourself. Paradoxically, that frees you to be devoted to whatever you choose and in whichever priority.
For example your personal values could look like this:
1. Personal health and well-being.
2. Relationships - with significant other, family, friends.
3. Career/self-expression
4. Continuing education.
5. Volunteering to help others.
6. Recreation.
Your attention to your own needs does not preclude a healthy, loving and mutually devoted relationship - it enhances you.