The law of attraction is important here but I can imagine it's difficult to detach from the outcome. Peace can be seen as complacency and dealing with the anger can wear you down or cause you to give up time with your kids.
My mom was angry and my dad backed off, then that was her proof that he never did really care. He waited until we were almost adults to get involved but he shouldn't have. I forgave him but no child should ever grow up wondering if a parent loves them just for the sake of having peace.
Okay,then. It helps to accept your ex-wife's anger as just something that "is". Resisting that will make it stronger. It's her problem and out of your control. But sowing disrespect into kids, even subconsciously by either parent for the other, just reaps disrespectful kids. So as much as you can, forget that she is angry, not in smugness as the better person. Really practice thinking loving thoughts toward her that will come out as loving words if you have an occasion to speak to her or about her especially to your kids.
This person and her family and maybe even her new husband will be around for years to come, at every school event, graduation, funeral, birth and grandkids birthday party for the rest of your life, so keeping some love for her in your heart is the best way to have peace in the family and within yourself.
Do everything you can to ease her from the position in your life from wife to friend. Forgive her and forgive yourself, daily if you have to. The past is gone so start every day with "How can I be my best self today?".
What I assume you want to attract here is that your kids feel secure and loved and that their lives, and especially their time with you is as peaceful and as pleasant as possible. Keep your heart focused on that.
Put your ego aside and let drop any fruitless exchanges or battles just on the principle of the matter or just to prove who's right or wrong if it won't add to the above intention.
No matter what caused the divorce, let your kids see you now as love in action, love that won't let them go and love that respects the people they care about. If you can do that, they will have the best dad in the world and their mother will have a great friend.
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