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Originally Posted by Lauxa  please describe a night of mixing and mingling with a group of acquaintances and strangers?
What I usually do is walk into the room and head straight for the food/drinks because it seems the safest place. Once my hands are occupied, I scan the room and see people talking in groups of 2 or 3 or more. I look for the person I am most familiar with and if they are free I might go and say hello and talk for a minute or two. If there are tables set out, I look for an empty table and sit down. The whole time I am radiating extreme discomfort and anxiety. Meeting new people is a huge stressor.
If I have kids, the situation is compounded by trying to run after them. On the one hand, it keeps me from being totally alone, but on the other hand even if I do manage to get a nice conversation going I can be assured that it will be short-lived because I will have to break away to chase little ones.
Usually I stay more-or-less with the same person the whole time. Once I develop even a hint of rapport with one person, I find it extremely hard to break away and seek new relationships. Sometimes I do, but then I feel that I am being rude to the original person, and usually don't find other people to talk with and end up drifting around aimlessly the whole time.
I am trying to imagine doing better, but getting a little stuck since I have so little experience in this area. I can get as far as walking into the room, head held high and radiating confidence. People notice me and think "Who is that? I'd sure like to meet her." And then... nothing... my imagination is drawing a blank.
Maybe there is a scene in a movie that would be applicable for fleshing out my imagination? |
Maybe that's not what you "really" want. If you truly wanted it I'm not sure if you'd be denied by your own emotions. Maybe I'm totally off the mark but what do you think?