[The Cloud]

Don't bother, people don't even know what they want, so living up to their expectations is just self-sacrifice to a demon of undefined desire. What people really want is for you to be what you are, and to give them permission to stop playing the expectation game and just be themselves. Your actions don't damage anyone (unless you are actually physically hurting people), they merely give people excuses to damage themselves. People's feelings originate in themselves, and you can't spend your life catering to the irrationality of their system of suffering, because no matter what somebody will always feel hurt by what you do and say. If you can exist as you are and have your needs met, then do so. If you want something more, then go for it, nobody is stopping you from trying but yourself.

If you want more in-depth friendships, then respond to their phone-calls and e-mails. It's that simple to get started. When they communicate with you, you are expected to communicate back. If you want to meet their expectations, then do so. If you keep forgetting, then make a schedule and pencil them into it. Even if your response is that you don't want the job, or don't want to go out for a drink, you are at least responding.