When other people mistreat you do you assume they are asking to be treated the same way, and if so do you comply by getting revenge on them and violating your own honor?
I believe I don't need to return any "favours" of that kind, just like I don't expect to get a gift back from the same person I am kind towards. The universe balances everything. Those who do bad things to others live in their own personal hell every day. Those who help other live in their own personal heaven every day.
The golden rule does not say "Do unto others as others do unto you".
It may look like I'm just switching it around but the sentence isn't commutative