Ivorytickler, I am so sorry for the pain you've gone through with your man. I hope very much that I haven't made it worse with telling you my opinions, and I hope very much that you have tons of happiness in your life.
The women here will be with me, I'm sure, if you want us to get together and kick his butt for you.
Where have Lola and NotesMaeve been? This is a time when we need them.